By KM Huber
When I open myself to learning rather than blaming and struggling against, I find the highest good in any situation. The flames of blame and the smoke of striving fade away.
Often, I turn to the teachings of the Tao te Ching for I treasure its basic truths. Such reflections soothe and instruct every time I return. I am refreshed.
Water gives life to the ten thousand things and does not strive
(Tao, Verse 8)
And like water, the highest good is life-giving, “flowing in places men reject and so is like the Tao” (Verse 8). All we need to remember is that water will flow—even through rock–rather than reject the route.
The highest good never rejects us, either, even when we do our best to shape what will not be shaped. In the highest good, there is no fight so there is no blame.
Yet, it is quick to flame, this blame, although it is not a trait with any true substance yet it seems so integral to the human experience.
Whatever person or event we blame is not what causes us to suffer (Byron Katie). Blame is a distraction, and it is easy to get caught up in its mindset.
We suffer when we hold onto a mindset; in a blind stance, we dig in for a last stand. Mindset is a misguided attempt to avoid the inevitable.
Nothing ever goes away until it teaches us
what we need to know
It would be hard, maybe impossible, to provide an example of a life experience that does not teach us for in every moment there is something to be learned. At a certain point in life, each of us becomes aware that what breaks us open is what we need to make us whole again.
It is how we learn. It is hard to accept, at least for me.
Chronic illness is my greatest teacher, as I have mentioned many times. Even in my more difficult moments, I am more aligned with learning than striving, which is not to say I do not have some fiery moments of blame throwing. They are just not as frequent.
I find it easier to recognize and to dismantle a mindset with self-care and love. After all, a mindset deflates quickly for it is only made of air. And once I breathe it in, I can breathe it out.
Mindset is only a thought no matter how often it may appear. In my experience, mindsets return for they have unimaginable power IF AND ONLY IF they are allowed to attach and become an unassailable belief.
We can learn from observing a mindset if we let it go for what it is. That is the way to keep learning rather than to continue struggling. I find hope in impermanence no matter how many times I meet similar situations. It makes the highest good in any situation seem not only possible but realistic.
We are more like water, wanting life for all and strife for no one. It is ours to flow, like water through rock if we must, open to the ten thousand things and like the Tao rejecting none.
KM Huber is a writer who learned Zen from a beagle. She believes the moment is all we ever have, and it is enough. In her early life as a hippie, she practiced poetry, and although her middle years were a bit of a muddle, she remains an overtly optimistic sexagenerian, writing prose. She blogs at kmhubersblog.com, may be followed on Twitter @KM_Huber or contacted by email at writetotheranch[at]gmail[dot]com.
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